092 | Why It’s SO Hard to Ask for Help (And Why You Should!)

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I love when the topics for podcast episodes just completely present themselves organically. Oftentimes, the conversations from my mastermind groups and calls, chats in my DMs, or just situations that are happening in my own life (and the world around me) are what I know I need to dive into here. A topic that came up on one of my recent Micromind calls with about 30 other women was why it’s SO hard to ask for help. It was totally one of those ‘lightbulb’ moments that confirmed I was not alone in feeling this way, because this is a struggle affecting many, many women. It’s just not as simple as ‘asking for help’ – there are much deeper layers as to why we don’t feel like we can.

In today’s episode, I want to talk about why it’s SO hard to ask for help, and even more, why you should be doing so. Women (and especially moms) are praised for being helpers, and putting everyone else first, while their needs are constantly pushed on the backburner. I mean…I myself am a thirty-something millennial mom living rural, who also was ingrained with the high-achieving, ‘do it all’ mentality for most of my life. Yeah…you could say it felt pretty unnatural for me to ask for help with my kids, house, etc., at first! 

I’ve learned that it’s those micro-experiences from childhood that shape the way we feel about ourselves in adulthood – the messages we absorbed really affected us on a subconscious level. Looking within ourselves and really becoming self aware around what we truly need is VITAL, as well as effectively communicating our wants and needs to those around us. It’s much easier to harbor resentment over assumptions, and we get salty when our husbands aren’t magical mind readers, but..is that really helping anyone in the long run?

What so much of this comes down to is the unrealistic expectations we are holding ourselves to, even though no one actually put them on us in the first place. Friend, you don’t have to be Superwoman, and you don’t have to do everything alone. I know it’s SO hard to ask for help, but at the end of the day, YOU are in charge of building a beautiful life that lights you up. Sometimes that means being vulnerable, and allowing your loved ones to support you where you need it, so you can flourish in this life!

In this episode, Why It’s SO Hard to Ask for Help (And Why You Should!), we cover:

• How your micro experiences from childhood shaped you, and what it looks like to bring them into adulthood
• Why the communication piece is VITAL in helping you not feel like a burden + finding self-awareness around what you really need
• Getting to the place of understanding you can’t (nor do you want) to do it ALL, and being totally okay with that
• Effectively tackling the conversation surrounding household division of labor + letting things go, even if they aren’t done ‘exactly’ the way you would do them
• Accepting the fact that other people are going to do things differently than you, but it doesn’t have to be a bad thing

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Related Episodes:

• Episode 090 | Mindset and Mental Health with Calli Thorne
• Episode 083 | POV: It’s Been a Hard Week and We Go to Coffee
• Episode 013 | How To Know When It’s Time to Ask for Help

More about Gather in Growth podcast: 

Where can I connect with fellow rural women who aren’t afraid to dream big dreams? How do I create and sustain daily habits that help me reach my personal and professional goals? Am I the only one that absolutely loves living in the middle of nowhere but wants to understand the world beyond my backyard? What should I do about the unshakable feeling that there’s more to life than just showing up? How do I break free from other people’s opinions and confidently live as my authentic self? 

Welcome to Gather in Growth, a show created for passionate, growth-focused rural women like you. From mindset work and building strong habits to nerding out over personal growth books through the lens of life on a backroad, this is a show to leave you feeling joyful, inspired, ready to take action, and a little less alone. 

Tune in for honest and heart-felt conversations with host, Emily Reuschel, and fellow thought leaders, to talk about personal growth and thriving as a rural woman. Here you’ll gain tactical strategies to bring your dreams to reality, real talk about the ups and downs of tackling goals, meaningful insight from fresh perspectives, and the confidence to step into the calling that’s been laid on your heart for a reason. If you crave to feel seen in a small town, you’re in the right place. 

Whether you’re currently running on a backroad, shuffling kids to town, hopping along for a tractor ride, or three loads deep into folding laundry… we’re in this together. Absolutely anything is possible and I’m so grateful to be on this journey with YOU! 

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