109 | People Pleasing, Unshakable Boundaries, Communicating with Power, and Cultivating Self-Worth with Amy Green Smith

Listen to People Pleasing, Unshakable Boundaries, Communicating with Power, and Cultivating Self-Worth with Amy Green Smith on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Your player of choice

I’m pumped to welcome my new friend, Amy Green Smith, onto the podcast today!

I honestly feel she’s like my new best friend – she is SO freaking cool, and offers a very unique perspective on the topic of people pleasing (especially recovering people pleasers – I know there are many of us out there)! Amy is a life coach, hypnotherapist, masterful keynote speaker, and personal empowerment expert. She’s been in this space for two decades now, so she knows a thing or two about how to help women leaders finally believe they’re enough, create unshakable boundaries, and communicate with power. Amy’s journey consisted of perfectionism and people pleasing for far too long, but after experiencing a very pivotal moment in her own life in 2007, she was done being motivated by guilt and fear. Instead, she chose happiness for herself, which ultimately meant, she chose herself, just as she was – no more trying to ‘fit in’, and make everyone else more important.

In today’s episode, we cover crucial topics like people pleasing, unshakable boundaries, communicating with power, cultivating self-worth, and more. Boundaries are one of those things that can feel pretty intimidating (to both people enforcing and receiving them), but they are extremely important when it comes to your self-worth and ‘enoughness’. Taking a three-pronged approach (like Amy recommends) can be incredibly beneficial when you’re ready to get serious about your boundaries and actually implement them (the follow through is key here). The world has plenty of badass, intelligent women who are incredibly brilliant, but they tend to doubt themselves, and feel like they don’t have ‘enough’ to offer. As women, we need to understand that our voices matter, we are wildly capable, and we DESERVE to take up some damn space.  Simply choosing to just ‘go with the flow’ and lose who we’re really meant (and are craving) to be, will no doubt be detrimental for us now, and for the long-term. Contrary to what society had led us to believe, we ARE allowed to feel however the heck we want to, and we shouldn’t feel ashamed or ‘less than’ for our unique life decisions. 

Maybe you’re having a difficult conversation with a family member or friend, or maybe you’re continually feeling the pull to move away from the outdated belief system that was ingrained in you from a young age. Whatever challenging situation you find yourself in, practicing kindness and assertiveness matters; you should never shy away from advocating for yourself either. When you choose to lead with curiosity, love, and empathy, you are going to better understand people, and have more meaningful conversations, regardless of their background or beliefs. 

Whether you’re struggling with pleasing people, boundaries, self-worth, or anything similar, Amy brought the fire and wisdom in this episode – I know it’s going to resonate deeply! Amy Green Smith is a certified and credentialed life coach and hypnotherapist, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-worth. With acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor and has been a featured expert in Inspired Coach Magazine and on Fox 5 San Diego.

In this episode, People Pleasing, Unshakable Boundaries, Communicating with Power, and Cultivating Self-Worth with Amy Green Smith, we cover:

• The pivotal moment in Amy’s life that led to her realization that speaking up for yourself and being who you truly are is not a bad thing, or something you need to hide
• What boundaries are + why they are incredibly important in regards to your self-worth and ‘enoughness’
• Why you should not allow your silence to make you a liar + using Amy’s three-pronged approach for setting boundaries when you need to have those tough conversations
• The detrimental impact that comes when you lose yourself and who you’re really meant to be, simply to fit in and please everyone around you
• Getting super curious when you’re ready to break free from an old, false belief system, and step into a new, authentic trajectory for your life
• Learning to cultivate your value + genuinely believing that you ARE allowed to feel however you do, regardless of what others think 
• Taking inventory of who you’re willing/able to have difficult conversations with + practicing kindness and assertiveness when speaking with others
• Leading with more curiosity, love, and empathy, instead of judgment and hate 
• Letting go of societal pressures when it comes to your health & body as you age + continually prioritizing your relationship with your partner

Resources & Links:

• Gather in Growth Sponsorship Inquiry
• Book me as a speaker for your next event
• Gather in Growth podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

Connect with Amy:

• Check out all of her free resources HERE
• Follow on Instagram @heyamygreensmith
• Check out Amy’s website
• Listen to her podcast The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast

Connect with Emily:

• Follow on Instagram and Facebook
• Join my email list
• Check out my website
• Connect with on LinkedIn

Related Episodes:

• Episode 104 | Betrayal Trauma, Relationship Boundaries, and Using Parts Work to Heal with Roxanne Kennedy Granata
• Episode 098 | Faith Expansion, Awakening The Senses, and Alchemy Through Artistry with Stephanie Simmons

More about Gather in Growth podcast: 

Where can I connect with fellow rural women who aren’t afraid to dream big dreams? How do I create and sustain daily habits that help me reach my personal and professional goals? Am I the only one that absolutely loves living in the middle of nowhere but wants to understand the world beyond my backyard? What should I do about the unshakable feeling that there’s more to life than just showing up? How do I break free from other people’s opinions and confidently live as my authentic self? 

Welcome to Gather in Growth, a show created for passionate, growth-focused rural women like you. From mindset work and building strong habits to nerding out over personal growth books through the lens of life on a backroad, this is a show to leave you feeling joyful, inspired, ready to take action, and a little less alone. 

Tune in for honest and heart-felt conversations with host, Emily Reuschel, and fellow thought leaders, to talk about personal growth and thriving as a rural woman. Here you’ll gain tactical strategies to bring your dreams to reality, real talk about the ups and downs of tackling goals, meaningful insight from fresh perspectives, and the confidence to step into the calling that’s been laid on your heart for a reason. If you crave to feel seen in a small town, you’re in the right place. 

Whether you’re currently running on a backroad, shuffling kids to town, hopping along for a tractor ride, or three loads deep into folding laundry… we’re in this together. Absolutely anything is possible and I’m so grateful to be on this journey with YOU! 

Be sure to hit subscribe so you never miss the latest episode! Reviews help us reach more rockstar rural women, and are always greatly appreciated!